Tuesday, February 19, 2008

New endings and beginnings

... jean...thinking. would you believe this is in actuality a tattoo? Quite a lovely one. I feel as if I am in my element but moving in a direction I am not knowing yet. At least it is some form of UP!!! It's a bit of hard work but that is OK.


Good shot of some honey, honey! We use a squeeze bottle. Jim has been eating it on rye bread! Hey, takes all kinds!




I like this honey picture despite the fact that the contents look more like caviar. That is some dark honey!




I am trying to reassess my relationship to VEGETABLES. It is easy to be a vegetarian and not eat enough of them. I need more exercise too. Wow look at all these New Year's Resolutions which were hanging out in my subconscious! Think I can follow through?



I mention my review of Tom's book later on below: he rocks. You can get it at Amazon. A nicer guy I never met. http://www.tomnguyenart.com/is his site. I sent this book on to one of my sons. Tom personalized it wth a giant, perfect drawing of Superman!






I used to write for the above corporation. I LIVED AUTISM every day in every way.



I was a card carrying member of the original Mothers from Hell. You will understand later.









First of all: a question: maybe Andrew knows. Is there anything good (meaning valuable) nutritionally about honey? I am trying to change my eating habits, even though I am a vegetarian, and Jim has decided to eat honey anyway--not that he ever ate much straight granulated sugar...but nutritionally, is it a good food for you? I suppose I could google this but I have been googling yoga, vegetables, other oddities, as I periodically go and check to see if they have put up my excellent (can I say that myself?) five star review of Tom Nguyen's book on Amazon, note that they haven't yet, and go about my day. And that has meant: having a REALLY hard time getting going today. It's as if this trip from which I just returned (why do I have to make grammar such a convoluted thing? It's fun for me to, that is why!) constitutes the ending of a beginning for me. Watch it, jean get's slightly heavy--a rare thing . What I mean by all this is that three years ago, right now, I was not anybody you would recognize by name, within the online beading community. I was selling my jewelry locally, which was fun, but I worked hard and thoroughly underpriced everything...Mostly I was intensely spending my free time teaching myself how to do the things I do. I was learning how to stamp on silver, begged Jim for Lisa Niven Kelly's silver bangle kit for Christmas (yes! I can do that! even though she had to answer some realy lame questions from me!), I was teaching myself Connie Fox's bangle, I was working on my chain maille. I was thinking about and playing with and delighting in my collection of my beloved beads from Ebay and Justbeads. I didn't have any websites I went to yet, although I was getting close...I went to bead stores and beadshops online. I read magazines, and the books Jim would buy for me at Michael's. I was totally a Swarovski girl when I designed and I still am completely dazzled by Swarovskis. I love the vintage store http://www.jewelex.com/ --it is my favorite!!! and I could get lost in there.

However, now that I am back from CHA I am thinking about the next turn my life is going to take, and I am telling you right here I am mystified AND fascinated to see what is going to happen. I do know I want to make ATC's and there is no one who is going to stop me--I have the great! Bernie Berlin's book! Going to review it shortly. Then, anyone who wants to trade...we'll trade!!! That is as far as I have gotten with plans. I need a collection of odds and ends ...bits and bobs. I am sure in this house I can find some!
Before the jewelry, it was all autism, all the time. I was the same focused person, it as just a different thing upon which I was intently focusing. We had our home programs and our early interventions for the children, and any writing I did was concerning autism. I had some major (to me) articles published, including one called "Stress and Parenting Children with Autism" which was pretty funny because I called everyone I could locate and interviewed them about how they released stress if they had a child or children with autism. Then I had had it for a nanosecond. It's not a surprising thing to have happen when you have this day in day out sort of life of endurance, even if you love your family. It was a good article in the newsbulletin of The Autism Society of America, which was one of the first and almost only established groups you could turn to if you had any sort of connection with autism at the time. I met my friend Elizabeth http://www.fourleafpress.com/ by interviewing her for her award winning book, Autism Treatment Guide, which was the first objectively written guide to various treatments for autism. As it says on her site, the book is now in its third edition, and it is a useful guide for those just learning to navigate the complex world of autism. It received the "Outstanding Parent Achievement Award" from the Autism Society of America. Anyway, we had that interview published in that Austism Society of America bulletin. We went on to become friends and she went on to publish another award winning book, Just This Side of Normal, about her son. I love this book! You can find it on her site. She has a way with her writing and it has great impact and honesty. After that, I joined (just a a paying member) her great group The Mothers from Hell, which is going strong in its second incarnation, in a different location. It was a fabulous group of women who at the time were very very funny and very very proactive about something which is very very serious--children who are disabled. The Mothers from Hell helped people who were new or confused or timid get what they needed from their school districts, or just know they were not alone in the crazy world of having a child with any sort of disability. It was incredibly empowering and not at all "cheap". Elizabeth had started it in Oregon with a group of fantastic women, and I wrote for them occasionally, when invited, and some of my stuff is still floating around on the net, kind of mishmashed up.

Anyway, that was an episode in my life which I loved and then moved on from, although you don't move on from your family, obviously. I just...after the stress article....I got stressed out concerning autism as a "subject". I still help people but I don't seek out situations where I am in meetings or advocating for other parents. I stopped that, last year. If someone needs me and calls I will talk forever, however. It's a very hard row to hoe.
So anyway, now it became all about: find something you needed and loved to do. That was what I needed when I began making jewelry. Making jewelry was waiting for me and I cleaved to it.
I must say the jewelry and beading community could not be a nicer group of people. Talk about sharing. Sharing information and loving to share generously. Just like the autism groups I had been involved with. The only difference, the way I see it, is that the jewelry and beading family I belong to now is slightly mellower. There are many familes who have children with autism who would immediately understand why I wrote an article concerning the stress we all endure. They also hopefully would understand why I would embrace a humor and advocacy newsbulletin called "Mothers from Hell". Pretty wild sounding huh? I still have my card I got for joining and I keep it with love. File it under happy memories, just like you can file these past three years learning how to submit to magazines, writing my book Links, and making great new friends...without leaving my old ones behind! EVER!

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Blogger Andrew Thornton says...

Uhmmmm... to my knowledge, there isn't anything overwhelming nutritional about honey. I mean, it's got a lot of vitamins and minerals, but only in trace amounts. However, honey has been used for a long time for several different things... some of which were the preservation of wooden statues and in wrinkle creams (I think only royal honey)... and all sorts of things concerning helping people with allergies overcome them. But yeah... I'm not sure.

I do know what you mean about the next chapter. I think it's always hard trying to figure out to do next. I used to think that I knew the course my life would take... that I could predict each bend in the road and although I'm pretty good at figuring things out... there have been many surprises that have change my life utterly.

I'm reminded by something from that movie, The Hours. It's a line where the character Clarissa talks about all the possibilities and how she felt that the feeling that this was the beginning of happiness, was in fact... happiness. I kind of agree. That that sense of change is one of the most raw and primal feelings that connect us with the universe. We are agents of change, each and every one of us.

February 19, 2008 7:58 PM  
Blogger Jean says...

wow Andrew, thank you for leaving this wonderful comment. This is why I love you. I feel potential because of what you said. I think that is what I was trying to articulate but I couldn't seem to get to it. Potential for change is a powerful and amazing thing!

Yay Andrew!

February 19, 2008 8:20 PM  
Blogger JafaBrit's Art says...

"we are agents of change", I like that. I enjoyed reading about what you have done and love the name, "mothers from hell", very apt.

I felt somewhat similar to you after a few solo art exhibits. It was like, okay, been there, done that, can't keep churning out paintings for exhibits where nobody buys, and it isn't an ego thing.

I think whatever your next chapter is Jean, it is going to be exciting, dynamic and fun to watch unfold. And while the others have ended for you, they haven't for the world, you have left a marvelous gift.

February 20, 2008 5:00 AM  
Blogger June Houck says...

I think honey has good bacteria in it or something...my grandmother always had me eat a teaspoonful each day to keep me "healthy"...old wives tale? Also, when my girlfriend had her c-section, the hospital did not stitch her up. They poured honey all over her abdomen. She healed wonderfully!

Autism. Ugh. You "get it" more than even other moms I know with ASD kids. When I let myself worry (particularly about Julia, my primarily non-verbal child)I remind myself that things are SO MUCH better than they were 1,2, and especially 3 years ago. 2003/2004 was my hell.

I am glad I started selling cards a year ago. My husband reminded me that yet again I was taking on too much. (I know he is right!) I need something NOT autism related. Dh is concerned that my "job" is to care for the girls to the best of my ability, and if I stretch too thin I can't do it. I feel if I don't do non-autism things (creating cards feeds my soul), I won't be any good at caring for them anyway, kwim?

Anyway, you rock, Jean Yates!

February 20, 2008 5:13 AM  
Blogger Jenny says...

Here's some honey theories for you:
http://www.truehealth.org/ahealt03.html

Gotta run; my current writing project requires me to look up some inane facts. I'll get back to you later!

February 20, 2008 7:07 AM  
Blogger Jean says...

First of all I love you all: thanks for your support on this heavier than usual entry. as Jim always says: "It's all about Jean!"

GAH! :)

February 20, 2008 9:44 AM  
Blogger Jean says...

Thank you Jafabrit: that was the coolest thing to read! I love having you as a pal. I went back to your tree yesterday--I hope my comment was left...I couldn't tell. If I wasn't a tree hugger before--and I don't really know what that is--I am, NOW!

xox!

February 20, 2008 9:47 AM  
Blogger Jean says...

June! everything you said resonated with me totally. You and I are two peas in a pod. Except for the math part. :) and the honey on the c-section is fascinating. how amazing. I am going to learn as much as I can about honey. When I am done, I shall know. I have always loved Andrew's family's clasp and pendant and the bee they make. I have an uncle who used to have bee hives. We would have fresh honey from them, on the comb. I guess it is beginning to take me down a path -- a little side road...to I don't know what! xox!

February 20, 2008 9:52 AM  
Blogger Jean says...

Jenny that is the most amazing link! thank you! and Sue bee what what we had for the most part when we had bottled honey as kids! We had honey butter sandwiches. I firgot until right now! We loved them! Yay!

xox thanks again!!!

February 20, 2008 9:56 AM  
Blogger Margot Potter says...

Jean

I know eating your local honey can help you build immunities to local pollens. That's all I've got. I think sugars in their simple states are fine in moderation, as are all things (even the wicked ones.) Honey is yummy and Pooh would tell you one can never eat enough.

I am, like you, ever restless and shifting and morphing into something new. We've both been so many things in our lifetimes people must think us daft...or blessed at telling tall tales. Life is a journey and it can be an adventure if one is willing. Keep following your heart and it will lead you to the next thing and the next thing and the next. Perhaps there's a book in you right now about something totally surprising? I think there are several...

Whatever you do, I'll be cheering you on!

GO JEAN GO!

xoxo
Margot

February 20, 2008 11:05 AM  
Blogger Robin Beam says...

Miss Jean: A fun website to get involved with some ATC trading is www.atcards.com; a year or so ago I wanted to do something for fun, for me and not for work, so I took part in a bunch of trades, then work got the best of me again. My gallery name is rdbeader if you want to see what I did. It's a fun site, my dear. I'd be happy to play ATC trade with you!

Inky Hugs, Robin

February 20, 2008 11:34 AM  
Blogger Jean says...

Thank you Margot, for the extremely thoughtful response to my meanderings. I think you GET me in some serious aspect. Or aspect.
A book would be great and so would exploring all kins of new things. It is very funny to be my age and feel like a new born person. What a weirdo I am! It does happen to me on a regular basis, as it does to you...

xox

February 20, 2008 12:39 PM  
Blogger Jean says...

Dear Robin--how fun to know a cool place to go.Thank you--I will go look for your pieces online! I will learn as much as I can from the site and Bernie's book and then we will do some fun trades! I need cardstock! I need a ruler! hahahahah!!! xox

jean!

February 20, 2008 12:41 PM  
Blogger Jenny says...

ps -- I forgot this part: you are wonderful, and I love you. You are a blessing.

February 20, 2008 3:08 PM  
Blogger Jean says...

Dear Jenny--I feel the same way about you. you know that!!! xoxox

hooray for Jenny!

February 24, 2008 1:26 PM  

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